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on 2/1/2013, 8:20 pm
I don't know who else to go to. I have been out with her for like...5 months. And recently we both decided to become friends. I only decided that because she wanted some space. At first I thought she was just a crazy yandere chick and she had an obsession with me. But she had grown on me overtime. I put her infront of everything, my work, my family. I am failing university, well, I'm probably going to get kicked out. I don't have the will to animate anymore (super mario collab. goku vs superman, naruto vs ichigo). I can't workout anymore. I just sit there and eat junk food all day. I barely come out of my room. She has been able to make me cry emotionally. No past girlfriends have ever done that to me. But, I really thought she was it you know. We had all these plans about marriage and kids and stuff. But I know that's never going to happen. The thing was. She liked me for ME.

Her:(2/2/13 12:29:41 AM): I don't know what i want right now
Me: (2/2/13 12:32:52 AM): Wait...do you...like someone else? o3o
Me: (2/2/13 12:37:16 AM): I just need the confirmation so I can back off totally.
Her: (2/2/13 12:38:15 AM): i think so
Her: (2/2/13 12:38:18 AM): i dunno
Her: (2/2/13 12:38:21 AM): imnot trying
Her: (2/2/13 12:38:28 AM): i don't want anything
Me: (2/2/13 12:38:47 AM): If you like someone else then that's fine c: I wanna chu to be happy.
Me: (2/2/13 12:42:46 AM): I won't chase you anymore. >.<

No reply after that. How can she like another guy just once we have become friends. I realised later her "obsession" with me, started getting lower and lower. And then just stopped. It's like she just wasn't interested. She is rather stubborn and a cry baby. The slightest thing can upset her. Was I just used? I'm trying to suck it up but I just can't...
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on 2/1/2013, 8:38 pm
You care for me so much you're the first to post <3

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on 2/1/2013, 8:39 pm
shhhh
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on 2/1/2013, 8:45 pm
yeesh... Sounds like you've had it rough.

Unfortunately I can't really relate. No girl I've ever tried getting close to ever let me in.

anyway, I honestly don't know what to say. I wish there was something I could do to help you dude. What I think the problem is, is that you started planning WAY to early. Marriage is one thing, but kids? whoa man. you have to slow down there. Growing up is fine, it's a part of life, but you NEVER want to run into it to fast. Then again that's not the only problem. There are tons of problems in relationships.

What you're in right now is a depression slump. Because of what's happening with her, it's literally sucking the motivation out of EVERYTHING you do.

I have two options for you:

If you want to get her back you need to try something, I don't know what, but you need to do something. Show her how much you care and that you're willing to keep trying.

My second option is to try and move on. Leave for a while, focus on other things. Clear your mind. Focus on your school work and try and forget about relationships for a while.

Since I've never been in this situation I can't give a lot of good advice, but I can leave you with this quote:

"You can call me a sucker, I don’t care, because I do believe in it. Bottom line: it’s couples who are truly right for each other wade through the same crap as everybody else, but the big difference is they don’t let it take them down.

One of those two people will stand up and fight for that relationship every time. If it’s right, and they’re real lucky, one of them will say something.”


btw, I would have been first post but joey is ugly so there.

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on 2/1/2013, 8:50 pm
eww bro.....theres nothing I can say to help you right now. This too shall pass. sallIgot.

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on 2/1/2013, 8:52 pm
Bro...This is terrible and I'm sorry but she's terrible also. It's basically exactly how she said it. She doesn't know what she wants right now and she didn't know what she wanted in the first place. You say she had an obsession with you at first, right? Well how did she know she was gonna love you forever when she really didn't know you to begin with? She didn't know and now it's confusing her because she thought she would love you forever probably because of your looks or something. Shit like that is what is so dangerous about "falling in love" because a person's looks in a relationship can only last for so long before eventually the couple falls out; or in this case one person falls out and the other is stuck trying to figure out where they went wrong... Dude, I'm sorry but she probably doesn't really care for you that much... And I understand that you thought she liked you for YOU and she probably thought she did too, but if that was the case then she wouldn't have started to like other people... and yeah she totally does like that other guy despite her saying "I think so...I dunno..." So bottom-line is that yes, my friend, you were used and I'm sorry but the love life after this will be a difficult one; but hey no one ever said path of life didn't have any bumps in it...So here is what ya gotta do.

1. Forget about her. Yeah, I know, that's a hell of a lot easier said than done, right? Well, you still gotta do it... It'll be hard in the beginning, but eventually you won't give a fuck anymore. And chances are is that she's already started this "obsession" with the other dude and is losing whatever feelings she had for you, so just forget about her; she's only a heartache now.

2. Embrace the single life. Bro, go out and have some fun and shit. There are many other women in the world than that one girl and eventually you'll find the one you truly deserve. Btw, I wouldn't be rushing into a relationship right now; coming out of a relationship like that and rushing back into one is an easy way to screw your life up BAD. Speaking of life; you have one now; make the best of it and do not waste it. I'm pretty sure that you, or someone else, spent a lot of money to get you into the university. Do not blow it; even if the value of a degree has fallen it still means something. It means that you are good civilian of society who is an expert in some professional field and that will get you where you need to be in life. You ain't gonna become a hobo just because a girl dropped you on your ass, are you?

3. Get in touch with your friends and family. Seriously, your family and friends are the ones who will help you up when you are down. And I'm sure one of them has had a similar experience and will give you a lot of better advice then what I'm giving ya. Seriously, though you need your family and they need you; they will help you.
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on 2/1/2013, 8:57 pm
Thanks SXR and Rapid. Really means a lot.

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on 2/1/2013, 9:01 pm
yea what Rapid said up there......



fuck it bro lets hit the youtube strip club

"not for school or work children"

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on 2/1/2013, 9:01 pm
@NS01 wrote:Thanks SXR and Rapid. Really means a lot.
Ok wow fuck you man

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on 2/1/2013, 9:04 pm
Yours was the best Joey xD AND Face's strip club
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on 2/1/2013, 9:10 pm
@NS01 wrote:Yours was the best Joey xD AND Face's strip club
link me to this chick on skype I'll set her straight

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on 2/1/2013, 9:15 pm
@Face wrote:link me to this chick on skype
link on skype
now you're not even speaking English
#gravityfalls

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on 2/1/2013, 10:17 pm
@NS01 wrote:Thanks SXR and Rapid. Really means a lot.

No problem, bro. I'm pretty sure I have a good idea of how you feel except on a smaller scale. Basically, I started dating this girl I liked, she said yes because she doesn't like to be alone or some stupid bullshit, she finds someone she likes better and breaks up to go to him. But she became a teen mother so I ain't even mad.
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on 2/2/2013, 5:37 am
hey, i feel you bro. Though i've never been in a relationship like that, I've seen alot of people brake up and just ruin their lives because of it. it's the fact that they just didn't move on. Moving on is the best thing to do. Have fun! I had a friend who had this girl in my school too, same situation, fell in love with another guy. But he simply moved on and now they are even friends again. Don't let this one moment ruin your life. Enjoy it while it lasts man. But know this....

MAKE SURE SHE'S NOT YOUR SECOND CHOICE, IT'S EITHER SHE CHOOSES YOU, OR LOOSES YOU. IF SHE BRAKES UP WITH HIM AND COMES CRAWLING BACK TO YOU, DON'T TAKE IT LIGHTLY.

but at the same time, it's your choice :)

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on 2/2/2013, 8:33 am
Wow NS... i feel bad for you right now...
but do what Rapid said and you'll be alright in a few months.
also, don't care too much about it, meet new girls, go on with your life like if nothing of what happened bothers you.

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on 2/2/2013, 10:49 am
Hope you're able to move on man, BE STRONG!

This topic should definitely stay up, if anyone else is having girl problems, post it here and The Spritas will give you internet support.

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on 2/2/2013, 12:38 pm
Patt's sig on MSN kinda comes to mind for this:
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on 2/2/2013, 12:56 pm
BDBstriker wrote:This topic should definitely stay up, if anyone else is having girl problems, post it here and The Spritas will give you internet support.

Ok then here's my problem


I have no girl friend ever

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on 2/2/2013, 1:06 pm
(this is a perfect moment for Joey's "have a seat" meme")
So is anyone able to post in this or only people who have been in/are in a relationship?

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on 2/2/2013, 1:25 pm
I tell her to block me on Skype and Steam and stuff. But she won't do it o.o"

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on 2/2/2013, 2:18 pm
Bro, just stop talking to her. Seriously, she doesn't want you for you. She is just using you to feel better about herself. Conceited girls love to keep guys around who will sit there and adore them because they're conceited and want people giving them attention. They don't care for the people giving them the attention they only care about the attention.

Another thing, if this "obsession" thing doesn't work out for her chances are she'll come running back to you. DO NOT TAKE HER SORRY ASS BACK! If you take her back then there's no telling when she'll try to do this shit again and screw around with other dudes and get AIDS or some shit. She's always gonna be like this because she's scared of not having someone there to depend on and she's selfish so once she finds someone else she thinks she will like then she won't care about your feelings or the fact you were supposed to get married and raise a happy family; she'll only be thinking of this other guy and how much she thinks she wants him.

Now I'm not saying you should just completely abandon her and stop all contact with her. (That isn't a bad option though in my honest opinion.) I'm just saying you should try to forget all about those feelings you once shared with her because those aren't coming back and getting back with her won't get them back and will only hurt you instead.

Edit: So yeah, as Blitz pointed out, I am severely jumping to conclusions. I apologize, but I am merely speaking from experience and from what I've seen. Also, like Blitz said, the decision for what you do is up to you; I just read your dilemma, figured I related a little bit, and typed out what I thought you should do, or rather, what I would do in that situation. I'm fully aware that we are different people so it's not like what I say is the 10 commandments for relationships. But I am extremely serious about staying in the university and getting in touch with family and friends because that shit is important.


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on 2/2/2013, 2:33 pm
idk, people deserve second chances. Not immediately, but if after a while and thinking and stuff, she seems to know wtf is in her head and she decides she wants to try again, then (assuming you still even want to) try again maybe.
tbh i think you guys (or at least her) just went through the honeymoon phase, and not that that's over she doesn't know what to do. If you do get back together and she has the same obsession as the beginning, then that's kinda bad, same if she still seems uninterested.
tl;dr: idk

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on 2/2/2013, 2:34 pm
Rapid, I think you may be jumping to conclusions here considering you don't really know her at all. Yeah, she (apparently) likes another guy, that's obviously not a good thing. But from what I can tell (Again, there's only so much I actually can tell from this, so for all I know she is actually a cheating bitch) she seems more confused than anything else. I think you should just follow your own judgement on this one, because there's only so much I or anyone else can actually tell you. Maybe you should talk to her about it, or just try and break contact with her until you're sorted this through your head. You know her better than us so it's really up to you here.

**EDIT** Okay admittedly i just skimmed over the post and never really payed attention to it. I just read it properly and to be honest I'm not really sure how to actually reply to this. I still say it should be your decision, though. You'd probably be better at judging the situation than anyone here.


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on 2/2/2013, 2:51 pm
I say fuck the bitch. There no point of you for her to block you. You should just do it yourself. It shows that you really don't give a fuck anymore. It's really stupid to give people second chances in this case because she probably gonna force you to be in some friend zone situation.
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